One advice all married men want to tell unmarried, but are afraid to say is: better prostitutes than a wife.
Life will be calm and happy.
#relationship
4 posts3 participants1 post today
#Emotional #Immaturity Will Ruin Any Good #Relationship — No Matter How Strong the #Chemistry
You can have chemistry that sets the room on fire.
#Love Doesn’t Need Filters, it Just Needs to Be Felt
If you’re feeling like your #relationship isn’t enough because it doesn’t “look like” everyone else’s — pause.
https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/love-doesnt-need-filters-it-just-needs-to-be-felt/
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) Some of the responses to my consent post got me thinking about relationships and boundaries on social media, so I'm going to talk a bit about parasocial relationships.
When I was new to Fedi, I started following cool accounts that popped up regularly, which tended to be much bigger accounts than my own. Many of which I now consider to be friends, or more ( @catsalad, @deviantollam, @saraislet, @Alice@beige.party, @aral, @dramypsyd, @TheBreadmonkey, @LilahTovMoon, @tinker, @ErikUden, apparently this turned into a #FollowFriday post 
).
Now, because of the way our brains have evolved, the people we tend to get attached to are the people we regularly spend time with. Big accounts get boosted a lot (and also tend to be more prolific tooters), so most users on Fedi regularly "spend time with" these larger accounts.
***Now don't get me wrong***, I love getting to know new people! It's why I'm here! 
That said, if you factor in that I often share deeply personal things about myself, post nudes, and naturally have a flirty/friendly tone, the maths work out such that I can end up with folx who've known me intimately for months or years, who I've only seen an occasional reply from.
This isn't usually an issue—it's just how social media works. But it can become a problem when the more familiar party assumes their familiarity comes with the privilege to cross boundaries that require consent.
Setting boundaries and talking about consent isn't rejection, it's a way of saying I want to keep engaging with you, but in a way that makes us both feel safe and heard.
Obligatory reference to my old "flirting is like Jenga" post—Each game requires a new agreement to play, and you only get to escalate one block per turn.
LGBTQIA.Space🅰🅻🅸🅲🅴 (🌈🦄) (@alice@lgbtqia.space)Hey, it's time to have the consent chat with folx again! Yay!
So, I know I can *sometimes* come across as flirty, maybe even a little sexual...and I am. *BUT* that doesn't mean that everyone gets an evergreen ticket to ride.
Consent is an ongoing process—continuing education—not a one-and-done checkbox.
Boundaries change, and so do circumstances. Just because we had hot cybersex a week ago doesn't mean I'm down for pet names or roleplay today. The number of unsolicited dick pics I've seen in Signal this week is too damn high! (the solicited number was just about right)
There's a distinction between different mediums and contexts. Like, my nudes are there for your enjoyment. I know y'all touch yourselves to 'em, and that's pretty hot. But it's not an open invitation to hit me up on Signal like we're dating (unless we actually are).
I value my wholesome-ish designation, and I try hard to be as—if not more—well-known for my community-building, outreach, and research as I am for my body.
So, ask. Ask early and often. And if I say no, it's not personal...it's preference. I prefer friends, open chats, and enthusiastic informed consent.
TL;DR; Fedi is for friends, community, and fun—all of which I prefer to do in public interactions. Flirting is encouraged, but either keep it light (or be really clever with the punnuendos).
In contrast, I use Signal for messages that are too personal or private for Fedi. Sometimes things get intimate, but this isn't OnlyFans chat.
I've noticed that since starting @AltAfterDark@masto.thefword.club, I've been getting a *lot* more chat requests on Signal, and I've already had to remind several of those folx that escalating requires new consent for each session and that I'm not an on-demand fantasy.
#PSA #Consent #Boundaries
7 Harsh #Truths About #SelfWorth That Finally Made my #Relationships #Healthier I used to think my biggest #relationship #problem was them.
it's been quite a while, so lemme write a new #intro
i'm raven, a silly #transgirl on the internet who likes to write, and create free-to-use #photography (mostly landscapes). u can find me on mastodon, and see what an overview of what i’m up to on my now page. i have so many interests and try my best to experience new things in this short life. some sort of neurospicy, tend to be overly genuine, a bit corny, over-opinionated at times
#nurse, 
#photographer, 
#linux nerd, 
#trans girl, 
#relationship anarchist, 
#vegan for the animals, 
#leftist, 
#union steward, 
#queer outdoor girlie, 
star stuff, 
bikes are cool, 
certified girl/boy/nb-kisser, 
#silly adventurer
i work in the OR as a nurse and i love my job
likes: #forests, #mountains, #oregon coast, #coffee, #adventures, #movies, #computers, #transit, #bikes, #Portland OR, scrub-role in surgery, science-stuff, n95s, #sewing, #privacy and #security in tech, #philosophy, #ceramics, #sailing, #music, pineapple on pizza, #leftism, workers-rights, #silliness, #headpats, and #praise
“chaotic af, kinda scatter brained, but smart if that makes sense”
“very direct and able to be vulnerable very easily (a good thing!) and the most ethically-minded and community-focused person ive met!”
“an iceberg. you’ve got a fun, flirty, smolder of a vibe when people meet you initially. then after getting to talk with you people see that you’ve got way more going on under the surface of the water”
i upload my photography as creative commons attribution license, i don't own a car, i have a #cat named Loki who i post about under the #catsofmastodon tag, i'm #divorced after a 14 year marriage (not the outcome i wanted, but here i am), and now happily in relationships as a relationship anarchist.
i live in #pdx and want to make it a better place by organizing and creating #unions and #community
i do #rock-climbing, #bjj, #running, #swimming, #sailing, currently recovering from injuries
i love #webdesign and created a #hugo theme which i use for my website (on github)
yes, imma #puppygirl and silly af
ravenwinters.orgPosts
More from 
Raven (she/her) 
https://www.europesays.com/2274449/ How the Trump–Musk relationship complicates Tesla’s future #AutonomousDriving #ElonMusk #Musk #PresidentTrump #Relationship #tesla #TSLA
#Relationship expert shares 4 signs you're the 'fringe #friend' and what to do about it
Upworthy · 4 signs that you're the 'fringe friend' and how to fix it
Wishing people on their Birthdays is a Painful Obligation. I used to wish a lot of people, but very few of them wished me on my birthday. If you reflect on your life, we have too many unnecessary obligations. The fewer obligations you have, the more fulfilling life you will live.
Being single is something only the rich can afford #polyamory #relationship #economy #anticapitalism #eattherich #feedthepoor
Being single is something only the rich can afford
#polyamory #relationship #economy #anticapitalism #eattherich #feedthepoor
#polyamory #relationship #economy #anticapitalism #eattherich #feedthepoor
I admin a local singles group on Facebook and here are some of the stories...
Today, a discussion started about what people are doing on the weekend, I mentioned that classes start again on Monday so I'll probably be reading. This lead to one of the guys in the group ranting about the state of university education and how it's "been dumbed down so the foreign students pass!" (it hasn't)
So, I deleted his comment and gave him a warning that we aren't doing a racism in the group, and if he kept it up he'd be banned.
Then one of the women jumped in with a "not to be racist, but I agree" comment.. so she got banned immediately (and banned from the kink group I also run).
The guy came back with a whole "well tell me how I was racist, I didn't single out a specific race!" multi-paragraph screed.. so he got banned as well.
"Anyone else interested in getting banned? Because I have the time to spend this afternoon."
Like, how did you all think that was going to go? Sheesh.
Слабкі сторони створення зображень ШІ
Найбільша вада програмного забезпечення для створення мистецтва штучного інтелекту полягає в тому,
https://note.com/poison_raika/n/ncb49e83bed93
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note（ノート）Слабкі сторони створення зображень ШІ｜ポイズン雷花Найбільша вада програмного забезпечення для створення мистецтва штучного інтелекту полягає в тому, що воно повністю ігнорує основи та переходить безпосередньо до розфарбовування самого зображення. Ось чому він такий нестабільний і виникає так багато помилок обробки. Зазвичай, малюючи малюнок, ви
4 Things You Should Never Ignore in a #Relationship
The 4 #dealbreakers you can’t ignore when choosing the right #partner.
ＡＩ絵生成の弱点
ＡＩ絵生成ソフトの一番の欠陥は基礎を完全無視していきなり絵事態を塗り始める事に有る。だからこそうあれ程不安定で処理ミスが多い。
https://note.com/poison_raika/n/n53b1889c1d42
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note（ノート）ＡＩ絵生成の弱点｜ポイズン雷花ＡＩ絵生成ソフトの一番の欠陥は基礎を完全無視していきなり絵事態を塗り始める事に有る。だからこそうあれ程不安定で処理ミスが多い。 通常、絵を描く時、構図を決めて、下書き（ラフ）を描いて、修正を必要に応じて加え、線画を描いて最後に色を塗る。何もないとこからいきなり描き始めない。基礎がしっかりしてなければ真面に絵を描く事は出来ません。 ならＡＩにおける、基礎とは何でしょう？ 先ずは全体構図を作り上げる。各要素の正確な配置、座標、位置関係を演算する事。被写体と背景や前景の位置関係を計算する事。 次は下書きを生成して解析し、処理ミス、計算ミスを検証、修正。 最後に絵その物を生成。 当然学習データ
Weaknesses of AI image generation
The biggest flaw in AI image generation software is that it completely ignores the basics and just starts coloring the picture itself.
https://note.com/poison_raika/n/nbcf01aada7b5
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note（ノート）Weaknesses of AI image generation｜ポイズン雷花The biggest flaw in AI image generation software is that it completely ignores the basics and just starts coloring the picture itself. That's why it's so unstable and makes so many processing errors. Normally, when drawing a picture, you decide on the composition, draw a rough sketch, make corre
I admin a local singles group on Facebook, and this is something I've learnt..
Maybe it's not that you're having trouble finding the right woman. Maybe you are the wrong man. For everyone.
For the love of everything good and holy, go the fuck to therapy.