something is eating my RAM and it's pretty stealthy.
My used memory is about double of what it should be according to process usage. This is with #linux 6.16, gnome, browser and mailer running.
If I start a VM with 16 GB allocation, it runs into #OOM pretty quickly. If I start said VM with 12 GB, it also OOMs, just slower. Stealth usage increases there otherwise it wouldn't run OOM.
Found this promising thread but it's not this https://unix.stackexchange.com/questions/777046/how-to-analyse-cause-of-memory-usage-not-shown-by-htop
any idea?